Hello there! I am trying to maintain a presence on sex-positive sites with a Christian orientation to share our story and give and receive encouragement. My wife Stephanie and I just went through a long period of sexual decline, almost to the point of a dead bedroom. She is 50, and 4 years post-menopausal, and I am 45. Things began to turn around last August. First, we started having scheduled sex twice a week. Second, we tried this unconventional therapy with pig pheromones that have increased her libido. And third, we finally got Stephanie's hormones checked, and started hormone therapy on March 13th. She takes oral progesterone and a topical estrogen. As a result of these changes, she is horny every day. This week, we broke a record with 6 sexual encounters. She also has vaginismus (we have not had PIV in 4 years), or pelvic floor disorder, but she started using dilators, and is already up to size 4 out of 8. She is almost ready to move up to size 5. So given our challenges, that which might be considered vanilla by people on this progressive site (and I say that in a complimentary way), is considered exotic to us. Just the thought of having PIV again is very, very exciting to us. As far as polyamory or swinging go, we are cool with those things, but we don't see ourselves involved in that anytime in the near future. Under perfect conditions, I am sure my wife would be open minded about it. We are both Christians but believe strongly in Christian freedom and enjoying the gift of sex and even sharing with others, under the right conditions. It would be cool if there could have a new discussion thread dealing with sexual difficulties like hormone issues or dead bedrooms. But feel free to give me a private message if you would like to discuss things like this. I am also on Songs of the Believers, Reddit, Twitter, and The Garden Discord under the name "Brian O'Kane." Thank you!!
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Welcome and good news on your wife's improvement with her health and libido.
Hi. I am sorry to hear about your problems and glad you managed to do something about it. Sex-positivity means different things to different people. I had a look at Song of Believers and they are the opposite of Liberum Sexus. It is wonderful you are willing to expose yourself to the Professor's brand of sex positivity. When you start reading In Search of the Final Freedom, you will discover how his sex-positive philosophy developed into an open polyamory Christian community. Although the four books and 48 chapters so far are mostly fiction, the author writes more or less from experience. Just be aware, your understanding of sex-positive will be challenged, even changed. I believe it is a good thing. My own understanding of sex is that sex models the erotic but does not exhaust the erotic. "When the very Eros of existence is awakened in you, you are awakening as outrageous love. You become an outrageous lover. You begin to live an erotic life. Sex transforms from the pitiful grasping for fleeting fulfillment that is not working for virtually anyone, to something else entirely. Sex is revealed as the potent prose and poetry of reality itself, incarnate as your body and your desire. Sex is revealed as the love story of all of reality, happening in and as you. Sex is revealed as the source of all wisdom, pointing us toward the erotic and the holy in every dimension of life. It is a virtuous circle. Sex models Eros. You begin to live the erotic life in every dimension of your nonsexual life. As you re-eroticize your life, you are personally transformed. At the same time, regular sex transforms into erotic sex. Ordinary sex becomes outrageous sex." (Gafni, Marc; Kincaid, Kristina. A Return to Eros.) Not enough people have awakened to outrageous love, but sex can take you there. The Campbells in In Search of the Final Freedom are attempting to get there through their open sex-positive marriage. If you take a look at the Professor's photos (as the one below) you might be shocked by the range of his sex positivity. I hope your invitation will start a hot discussion. Thank you for sharing.