It is scary. If you had wanted to make a list, you could've gone on. But, I agree with Sandra that we're "undergoing the shift in a planetary “birth” of the next era of evolution." I think it's sort of like what happened after Gutenberg. Within a lifetime, you got Martin Luther tacking his theses on the church door. (Only bigger.) I think what we're seeing with authoritarians and oligarchs worldwide is analogous to the scientist-starved dogs that put on a burst of energy right before the end. Doesn't make them any less dangerous, but they're done.

@Tobias That red thing that came out of his dick! It looked like it hurt. Hanging out with a lesbian friend who I knew had a rollicking sex life, I was surprised when she corrected her dog who was licking herself. Different strokes, I guess.

It's strange how differently we react to things like that, dogs fucking for instance—something that used to happen more frequently before leash laws and widespread neutering. As a grandfather who spends a lot of time with his twin grandkids, I'm a little more careful about what I say or how I react because I don't want to trespass on their parents' prerogatives.

Fifteen or twenty years ago, I bought a tape on the internet. I've lost it (I think I know where it is, but digging it out would be more work for me than I want), and the website seems to have been taken down.I'm pretty sure it's called Male Multiple Orgasm, and the author may have been named Jack Moran. There were two parts to his version, "Valley Breath" and "Key Sound." I imitated the sound the way he made it, and breathed the way he did. Nuthin'. My gut told me that there was something there, and I kept trying, switching my posture and whatnot. One thing that encouraged me was when I was a hassle I had driving the overnight bus from Kansas City. I breathed the way I described above, and got over my anger. It took me years, off and on, but I worked it out. I don't make the sound, and—like I said—I experimented a lot. The pleasure is worth it. I want to pass it on, and this seems like a venue that would welcome it. About other multi-orgasmic techniques, there's one around in which you withhold your semen by doing a Kegel. The only time I tried it, it felt like being hit in the nuts.

@p_j93 sure looks like it to me.

Well, you do a heckuva job. Sometimes I wonder why we drag pens and pencils, paper canvas and paints around a world in which digital picture making can capture whatever we imagine.

I just googled "Crossroads Baker." Those are some fascinating and beautiful images.

Good point! I thought that the cloud looked a little strange, but I brushed the thought aside. "Funny looking storm out there." I've probably been near the ocean for under a hundred hours, and I don't have much of a catalog of offshore clouds. Also, I was jealous of whatever method Fischl used to paint the cloud. Excuses, excuses! Your idea ties a lot of things together, but what's with the woman in the tank top and the orange bottoms? (I figure that the woman with the bra is just showing off before she gets entirely undressed.)

A prize for both, or nothing.

Interesting. You don't seem to be thinking of the sex scene as the resolution to a rom com. The frustrations and misunderstandings that move that kind of story along could lead to sex, but you seemed to be looking for something deeper. I didn't recognize the name Gabaldon, but I'll look her up. I was thinking of the production I described as resulting in a beautiful document, nothing more I won't make a video any time soon. I've committed myself to drawing and painting, and something seems to be forcing me back to more and more basic stuff. The tech entrepreneurs like to say people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year, and underestimate what they can do in ten. Ten years from now, I'll be turning eighty-three. Maybe then I'll take a break to do a video.

I don't know what your ongoing conversation with your wife is like, so I'm assuming you're generally pretty much on the same page—about work, kids, the state of the world, sex, housekeeping. Keep the stakes low for her. Keep it light. Maybe you could mention that you were aroused when you watched her get her pussy waxed, and you thought the woman who did it was into her. Ask your wife what it felt like. Did she like it that you watched? Listen and pay attention. Make sure she knows you hear her. You do pay attention to her, right? If your ongoing conversation is less than great, Forget the bisexual stuff until you fix it. That's what you should work on. memorize the Prayer of St. Francis: Lord, make me an instrument of your peace: where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; where there is sadness, joy. O divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console, to be understood as to understand, to be loved as to love. For it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

I hear you, and I don't know the answer. The dilemma is that our prudishness is pathological, and that pathology keeps us from trying to find a cure. Maybe it was ever thus, even about nonsexual stuff. I think we're coming to a moment when the preponderance of understanding overcomes the resistance to understanding, but it seems like a long, long time.

@BackwoodsBackyardBareback I think that if you have to ask that question you'd better keep the door closed.

I think Wanton Salon's comment answers the what's-right question: "I don’t know that masturbation itself needs to be modeled; I think children—as I believe the Professor has noted elsewhere—are adept at discovering their genitals as sources of pleasure and comfort. Their touching their own genitals shouldn’t be discouraged. Positive attitudes and behavior around masturbation should be reinforced. As I mentioned earlier, I think having a preferred spot for masturbating is wise. Then, it’s no surprise what goes on there: you eat in the kitchen, you masturbate in room X. If you are walked in on while masturbating, treat it like you would being walked in on while eating. If your child needs help, stop; if you’re child has a question, pause and answer it; if your child has a request that’s not pressing, simply say, “Honey, as soon as I’m finished, I’ll be right there.” " I think I remember the Professor's explaining what's against the law, but I don't remember what he said. In any case, he'd know.

It's pretty easy in Minneapolis to find opportunities to draw or paint nude models, and when I told my neighbor about one group I'm part of, this seventy-ish nurse was impressed. I post paintings from my Thursday session on Facebook, and get lots of likes and no flak. I think it's partly because of a century-and-a-fifth of social nudism. If there were a sex-positive movement of the same sort as nudism (and there is), and places like Liberum Gardens (there sort-of are), given the increased pace of social change, it wouldn't be too long before the Final Freedom.

Getting there. I just came across a similar idea in Peter Diamandis' and Stephen Kotler's The Future Is Faster than You Think. For them it's time, rather than population density—or maybe as well as population density—that allows innovation. It goes something like this: Computers save time. Their example is research time, and they cite a study that showed that computer research takes a third of the time of library research (duh!). That time can go toward innovation. Ridley says that time is wealth. His example is light, showing the amount of time you'd have to work for an hour of lamp time, going from Mesopotamian oil lamps, to candles, to whale oil, to gas, to incandescents, to compact fluorescents. He was writing at the dawn of widely available LEDs, so he only mentioned them as a possibility.

Even though Norway is four thousand miles away, this is a little further into the world.

@Joe MW I've inferred, without a lot of data, that NZ is more nude-friendly than most of the English-speaking world.

It's a good thing, and the cops sound like they won't bother her unless somebody complains.

I vote "Yes."